How to stop getting what you don’t want in life

Do you wonder why you keep getting what you don’t want in life, as opposed to what you do want in life?

Do you wonder why the jerks and users seem to keep coming around, but the good people stay far off?

Do you wonder why you’re overweight?

Do you wonder why you’re earning the same rate of pay per hour as you did five years ago?

Do you wonder why you’re still living in the same town–the one that you’ve been wanting to leave–for the last 10 years?

Do you wonder why you’ve been surrounded by the same people–the people who you consider boring, superficial, and petty–for the last 5 years.

Do you really want to know why you keep getting what you don’t want in life?

Are you ready for this?

The reason why you’re getting what you don’t want in life is because …

That is what you respond to.

In other words, you’re responding to the negative stuff, so you’re getting more of the negative stuff.

You get what you respond to.

What you respond to is what you attract.

If you don’t want what you are getting, then quit responding to it.

Ignore what you don’t want, and it will eventually go away.

Inevitably, the things–circumstances, situations, people, places–that you respond to, are the things that you become more comfortable with.

In order to change what you attract, you have to become less comfortable with it.

In order to become less comfortable with it, you have to quit responding to it.

Quit responding to what you don’t want, and it will go away.

Are you codependent for bad behavior?

Think about codependent people who stay in abusive relationships. Often, they will leave the relationship and you’ll see noticeable improvements in their life.

Then, almost as if they’re acting out a scene in a play-by-the-numbers screenplay, their former partner promises to treat them differently, or gets in a crisis and “needs” the codependent one to return, in order to help them.

When the codependent one returns, the abuser shows appreciation and promises “a new beginning” with flowery diatribes about a better life. The codependent feels appreciated, until they realize that the abuser’s embrace has left them missing a credit card or two.

Because the codependent one has returned into the arms of the abuser, they are responding to the person. If they didn’t respond to that person, they wouldn’t be in the situation.

Essentially, they get what you respond to.

What about you?

Let’s talk about you. Yes, you.

Maybe you’re inside your apartment, the windows are open, the birds are chirping, and you’ve got your laptop open reading this.

Maybe you’re hanging out with the leftover generation of downtown West Palm Beach, the dumpster-diving revolutionaries of Lake Worth, or the keen-eyed, wandering hipsters of Brooklyn, New York.

Ask yourself this …

Are you getting what you don’t want?

If so, ask yourself: What am I responding to?

If you’re getting what you don’t want, then quit responding to those people, those situations, those events, those circumstances that bring you what you don’t want.

Delete those annoying Facebook friends who constantly poke you.

Quit answering the text messages of that person who wastes your time with stuff that’s of little value.

Tell that person who keeps inviting you to play volleyball, that you’re not interested in playing volleyball on Wednesday night.

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In fact, you’re so not interested that (take a deep breath, folks) ….

you’d rather walk through a Home Depot and witness the sad parade of pot-bellied, veiny-armed, sad-eyed contractors wandering the aisles aimlessly, frustrated that 90% of the jobs have gone overseas, disappointed at the realization that America has lost it’s manufacturing base, that jobs are not returning, and because of this, those $26-an-hour jobs they once had are not coming back, and angry that the criminal Ben Bernanke, who gave trillions of dollars in taxpayer money to overseas banks in order to reward his friends, along with propping up Goldman-Sachs who got the American economy into this entire mess in the first place, is being lauded by the propaganda mainstream news who act as a pep rally for the corporatacracy. (Read Confessions of an Economic Hit Man.)

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When you keep responding to what you don’t want, you create a comfort magnet that continues to attract what you don’t want. You attract what you are comfortable with. So, to quit getting what you don’t want, get uncomfortable with it.

Make changes. Now.

This is easier than you think.

1. Change yourself physically. Do what you don’t normally do.

If the last time you took a walk was in 1997, then take a walk. If you’ve never ridden the bus, then take a bus ride. It’s actually fun and entertaining, especially if you’re in West Palm Beach, Florida, or Lake Worth, Florida.

Start exercising, but don’t call it exercise, call it having fun. Do some pushups or dance around in your room to some songs that bring a smile to your beautiful face.

Change yourself mentally. Go to the library. Not to rent movies or to use the computer, but to actually check out a book. Yes, there are still books there, and they are nice to hold and read, and they don’t require a plug or battery.

When you take action to increase knowledge and increase physical strength, this will affect your emotional and your spiritual condition. The entire body is connected.

Eventually, you will become less comfortable with certain things–situations, places, people, circumstances, events.

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By becoming less comfortable with these things, you will respond to them less, and you will quit attracting them to you.

At the same time, you will become more comfortable with new things–situations, places, people, circumstances, events. And you will start attracting new things that are more beneficial to you.

Doing this–taking action to learn more and become physically healthy–will create a positive loop, that will enable you to continue to change for the better.

This is what freedom is all about.

Keep moving forward. Ignore what you do not want.

Surround yourself with the person, place, thing, that motivates, challenges, inspires you.

One day, you’ll be the person that inspires someone else.

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